Your Libido Is Showing...
Stop Performing or Suppressing Power, & Start LIVING... Your life force doesn't care about what the internet or your fears have to say. It wants you to be magnetic.
It’s endearing when people think libido only shows up in sex. You can peep anyone's "life force" in their ambition, creativity, ideas, humor, gym stamina, personality, the passionate way they argue, even just the way they walk...
Your libido doesn't just wanna f*ck. It wants to conquer industries, write essays at 2am, deadlift your body weight, start a company, write poetry, debate politics, find *something* to build or produce... Excess libido redirected right, is what fuels obsession. When we find it fun or attractive to watch people obsessed with their craft, we're quite literally admiring life force & the act of creation. Some people waste it, some people channel it, either way it's always on full display.
(Big shouts to
for inspiring this musing with her tweet)When a woman’s life force is low (or she’s just not managing her energy well in that moment), you feel it instantly… (well maybe not if you're programmed by masculinity dogma online which perpetuates your Madonna-Whore Complex, but it’s obvious.) For instance, she gets obnoxious when she could be radiant instead. Instead of being magnetic, or fun, she gets bitchy & controlling. This is the opposite of “turning you on” with her beauty & vitality, right?… Super obvious now that you’re thinking about it. She’s trying to “negotiate” being attractive by policing or withholding or something like that.
We all have our moments, but chicks who primarily live like this are either low on life force or simply don’t know how to manage their energy. This is a huge problem social media makes worse, unless she’s done the inner work & self actualized.
This is the type of woman who’s outsourced her entire identity to external approval. She lives for validation. Obsessed with being “trendy,” never not saying or doing something to get a validating response, you can just feel how hollow her “flow” is. There’s no substance. No true taste, integration or individuality driving her choices… The extreme opposite of this also feels like low (or anti-flow) life force: women are contrarian of trends & avoid or attack all attention etc. There’s no juice in these chicks system. Everyone can sense it, especially men. He might sleep with her because he’s a “would” creature, but he doesn’t really feel her magnetism or deeply inspired by her way of being.
Men have the same problem, on the opposite side of the coin…
Many of you buy into masculinity dogma from terminally online losers… Some of us have been around the online coaching space long enough to unfortunately have found out first hand how terribly unfulfilling, hollow lives these guys live offline.
So instead of cultivating your life force through creative work, the sexual discipline it takes to build & sustain intimacy in exclusive relationships, channel your vitality into your professional ambitions, get stronger in the gym, etc… You buy into all these bullshit performative dominance strategies. It’s all talking points, unintegrated lenses & scripts. You now think sex appeal comes from memorizing “how to act alpha”.
Sexual energy is not about reciting lines from a social script so you can attract more of the low grade energies you complain exist in the world… The men who build, obsess, direct libido into something real - they never have to perform power. Their body language, focus, way of listening or leading etc, already announces it.
Vibe speaks, without words.
Power is not about holding onto things even harder. The most powerful men you’ll ever meet don’t worry about frame anymore because they outgrow the stage of learning it’s important & now they simply know they have it. So much so that they can afford to “let it go” & still have it… It’s knowing you can hold power & choosing not to. It’s the ability to sit at the steering wheel of your life force instead of get dragged by it. Your libido doesn’t get to control you, but you can let it animate you like when you let your charisma or humor have the floor. You can create.
“Everything is about sex… except sex. Sex is about power.”
In relational dynamics, your life force is always speaking.
Think of the most charismatic guy you know... Men with cultivated their life force energy can turn the opposite sex on, when they’re being harmlessly social, but also even when they’re not talking, because his energy is directed, contained & feels ALIVE. He’s experiencing life through his senses & he’s awakening your / other people’s senses… That’s his life force flowing through.
Same with women… Think of a time you saw a woman who’s an amazing dancer, in real life or a movie or whatever. She doesn’t have to perform, even when she’s performing a dance routine. & by that I mean, she is quite literally performing in this example I’m describing… but she doesn’t have to. Her life force energy overflows & it makes her presence & her movement magnetic… Whereas a bad dancer can perform the same dance routine & it just feels like there’s no flow or magnetism.
Couples who thrive & have great chemistry aren’t the ones who suppress libido, but they also don’t just let it run loose like a wild animal who’s gonna f*ck anything it’s attracted to. They sublimate, redirect, channel it into sex, duh, but also into their creations. Whether that’s art, a mission, a legacy, businesses, brands, children, the journey, whatever they create, together & individually. The bond is a collaborative FIRE, not just a leaky pipe. The most charismatic couples you know are both always flirting with the world, & the most insecure stuck up ones are demonstrating low (or non cultivated) life force.
So if you’re reading this: stop trying to look powerful, & start living like you already have it, because you quite literally do. Life force is already in you, you’re just using it wrong. You’re pretending, performing, withholding, not channeling right, or your health is in the shitter so you’re just lacking it. In some way, you’re misusing or wasting it. It’s not something to fear. It is your most POTENT tool. It doesn’t just show up in your sex life. It shows up in the gym, in your business, in your leadership, in your social scenarios, in your thinking process, in your VIBE.
Do not suppress it… Steer it.
Some people waste it, some people channel it, either way it never really hides.
Mastering your energy isn’t just about sex. All my clients have found me for different reasons, but the deeper bottleneck is always the same… energy. Because it’s the current that touches everything. Your health, wealth, relationships. When you learn to steer it — or you find where it’s blocked, or you purge energy you’re unknowingly carrying around that isn’t yours, or you figure out why you’re low on it… whatever your vibe’s problem is — every area of your life becomes magnetic. Life force is your most potent tool. Most people waste or perform it… You become a rare individual when you master it. If you wanna be one of those, reach out.
DM’s open while I get around to revising my client application.
Trina, this is so good. It's not that I didn't know about this, but I've let it slip and its a wonderful way to open my day.
Also, I have the best girlfriend. We both flirt with the world all the time. Our lovemaking never ends. Even on a Thursday morning, our conversation is foreplay. Joking is intimacy. Tender words are touching. Its just the best time being with her every day.